Changing the Steps of The Dance

"When patterns are broken, new worlds emerge." - Tuli Kupferberg

When anything changes at a core level, whether it be a person, a relationship or a country, then too its 'reflection' will change.

The old energetic pattern has been altered and if the things, people, or patterns don't change as well, then they will become incompatible with the new 'frequency'.

It is as though two people are dancing together with well practised steps. If one person begins to try a new dance then the situation becomes uncomfortable as they are no longer in synch with one another, they are literally 'out of step' and for a while chaos may ensue.

People often feel uncomfortable with such changes, as has been well documented in relationship studies when one person evolves, maybe gives up a destructive habit/pattern etc. then the other person in the relationship feels unbalanced by the shift and does their best to drag the partner back into the old behaviour so that the dance can continue. This point is the most crucial time of the 'changeover' period, as people will often fall back into old habits and behaviours just to keep the peace and please the 'dancing partner'.

Sometimes things have to fall by the wayside if they don't match a changing energy, that is the way of evolution. If you have ever been in a destructive dance with someone you will know the relief when you chose to change the steps or simply walked away from the dance.

If a 'dance', which can be any sort of relationship, work, personal, parent/child needs to change. then it takes one of the dancers to take the lead and begin dancing different steps. The original dance can not continue as the other dance partner can not continue the dance alone. So then something will have to change. Hopefully they will learn to follow the new steps and new and improved, the dance can continue.

If not, then you must have the courage to dance your own steps and through dancing you will attract a person or situation that will think your dance beautiful and be able to synchronise and join with you in your dance. Like attracts like and things are mirrored on all levels and whenever the energy changes then a new 'dance' can begin.

Do not let the future be held hostage by the past. - Neal A Maxwell.


Sherry Blue Sky said...

Beautiful and wise, Susannah. I wish the Republicans would step up to the new energy!!!!!

Sherry Blue Sky said...

p.s. Love the bright look ofyour header! Glorious.

Michaela said...

Susannah, this is so well written! I know what you are writing about. When I finished my 15 years during relationship I had to learn my own dance. Because I knew I had my own issues. So it came I stayed single for quit a long time. And the funny thing was that my family and some of my friends didn't understand my decision to stay alone. They really thought something must be wrong with me. And later I learned that many people prefer being in an unhappy relationship instead of being single because they think being alone means the same as being lonely.

Susannah said...

Hi Sherry, it is good to see you. :-)

I'm glad you like my header, as you can tell I love bright colours!

Susannah said...

Michaela, I think it is so true what you say that many people prefer to be in an unhappy relationship than to be single. It definitely takes courage to change the steps of any dance. I am glad you learned your own dance. :-)

Thanks for dropping in, it's always good to see you.

Deborah said...

This really is, as is all your writing so wonderfully wise and beautifully written ... a real tonic for the soul!

Suz said...

so glad you are writing that novel
keep at it
it will be wonderful
I'll wait

Susannah said...

Thanks Deborah :-)

Suz, thanks friend. ;-)

echo said...

Hi, I am glad to see that you are getting into NaNoWriMo too. For me, it is the one time of the year when I make all the other dancers wait for me to do a solo. It is when I use all the energy and emotions for my own passions instead of supporting kids and students and extended family first. Not that I ignore myself the rest of the year, or completely ignore everyone else in November, but the #1 priority shifts and that is energizing and powerful.

I love reading your tweets and Blogs. I bet your novel is fun and thought provoking and wonderful too.

Echo / Dixie Goode / pandorasecho

Susannah said...

Hi echo, good to see you here. :-)

Yes, it is my first try at Nanowrimo, I only decided a few weeks ago to do it and not having any idea what I wanted to write about or any experience at anything longer than blogging I was daunted to say the least.

But, I am doing it! and learning so much on the way.

I am 'winging it' as I haven't actually got a plot! It is really interesting to see what is coming out. Not what I expected at all actually, but I shall keep going one step at a time and see where it ends up. :-)

Thanks for visiting and good luck with your Nanowrimo. :-)

jaerose said...

Hi Susannah, this post was the perfect message for me today..I am glad you posted was very clearly expressed..thanks for your visit..Jae

Susannah said...

Jae, good to see you, I'm glad the post meant something for you. :-)


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